Pastor Michael Todd reveals something most high achievers refuse to admit: the drive fueling their rise is often rooted in a wound they have never faced.

He shares the moment he realized his obsession with greatness traced back to a 12-year-old boy sitting on a maroon chair, told he wasn't good enough to play drums in the big church, and how that single unprocessed moment shaped decades of his life.

That pattern lives in so many of us: we build careers, relationships, and whole identities on top of old damage without ever treating the root. Michael breaks down why people struggle to love and be loved, how unhealed trauma quietly transfers to the people closest to you, and what it actually means to bring your full self to a relationship instead of a defended version.

Whether you're healing inside a committed relationship or doing the work alone, this conversation gives you language and tools to start going to the root. So what you build from here can actually last.

Michael’s books:

Transformation Church

In this episode you will:

Discover why your relationships reflect the level of love you have for yourself and how to raise that floor
Learn how to identify the root wound beneath your most self-destructive patterns before it costs you everything you've built
Understand how to heal inside a committed relationship rather than waiting until you feel ready on your own
Recognize the moment your drive for success stops serving you and starts threatening your legacy
Gain a framework for choosing the right partner by getting clear on purpose before chasing chemistry

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Why Your Past Trauma Is Costing You Real Love | Pastor Michael Todd